Porn is a problem in todays society. It’s not so much that its there or what there is out there, but the access to it. This is because our culture isn’t comfortable talking about sex. It’s taboo. We are still arguing if we should even tell children about sex, and what we do teach them at an early age is just the bad things. We just basically show them all the STI’s and STD’s in order to scare them away from ever trying it and barely giving information on ways to prevent pregnancy. The problem with continuing this type of teaching, and why porn is such a problem, is that the kids have many more questions than what is covered, but they dont ask and they dont know who to ask because we dont talk about sex in our culture.
When they have these questions about their sexuality or about what sex even is, they only have two places they feel like they can go. They can either go to their friends, who will probably make fun of them for not knowing even though they dont know themselves, or they can watch porn.
The problem with porn isnt that its out there, but that its too out there. When a kid is forming their idea of sex based off of the porn they watch, they see a very unrealistic standard and idea of what its like. While most people when they get older realize that it is fake and unrealistic, there are some that dont and thats where the issue comes from. In porn nobody laughs, makes a mistake, says they dont like something, and there isnt ever any communication between the partners. If you believe that all sex should be like porn then youre going to have a very unhappy love life because you wont be able to get what is shown in porn. And even if you do, theres been a lot of interviews with porn stars about it and they all say that its not a good sexual experience, that it looks good but it’s not.
You also get the people who get into the deep end of porn with BDSM and other fetishes. If you are into that and you have a consenting partner, you do you, thats your thing. But there also needs to be an understanding that someone might not like to be tied up or hit. not every girl likes anal, despite what porn has led you to believe. If you talk to anyone that is really into BDSM you learn that there is a lot of consent in it. they go over just about everything they are going to do before hand and make sure everyone is ok with it before going into it. they also put a ton of emphasis on safety. from just watching porn, you would not understand that because it seems like anything goes, and that could lead to a lot of problems.
What i think would be a good solution would be to make what comes up when you type in “free porn” or something that a young kid might search have a lot of vanilla porn in it. The other types should still be there, just harder to get to. If you’re into it you’re still going to find it, but a kid wont know enough to go looking for it. Its like keeping you’re porn on your computer in a folder instead of as shortcuts right on your desktop. its not really secure or well hidden, but its still going to keep most people from finding it unless they’re already looking.