Porn, being one of the most searched subjects in google and other search engines, is sure to have some effect on our culture, right? Of course it has and probably more than most people realize. Some of the effects of porn are how men and women in society see themselves and each other. The porn industry affects the roles of both the male and female in intercourse, how self-conscious people are about their bodies and how they perform in sex, and finally how the intimacy of intercourse is deteriorating.
One of the easiest things to search online is porn. Even with parental watch or overprotective parents, children will find a way because they are curious. With all their friends talking about porn, sex, or just relationships a child’s mind can run wild. The problem with this is for many they are young and ignorant and have only just had the “talk” from their parents and are ready to experiment. In a New York Times article titled, “What Teenagers Are Learning From Online Porn” written by Maggie Jones in 2018, the opening paragraphs discuss the personal stories of a few male high school students. Their personal stories are the basic outline that almost all adolescent males have had at some point in their youth. The basic outline begins with the curiosity of what sex is like. This is a key problem when looking at how the porn industry is affecting what roles should the male and female take in intercourse. Most pornography videos include what many could consider very aggressive male dominance of the woman. Looking at this type of porn immediately presents the problem that these males see their role as being violent and dominant because that is what the girl appears to like in the videos. For females they see their role as being accepting of the rough behavior in order to pleasure their male partner.
Part of this role women are expected to perform in sex extends to their relationships in general. Outward appearance of female porn stars drive society’s views of female perfection. Models that show more skin than clothing on magazines like Sports Illustrated are more photo-shopped than real. However, everything in porn is real, right? Well more than likely there has been thousands of dollars spent on cosmetic surgeries to achieve that perfect appearance. What does this mean for the majority of females, in particular the younger generations? One cosmetic surgery that wouldn’t surprise most to hear about is female breast enlargements or reductions or even nose reconstruction. However, on the rise in cosmetic surgery, especially in younger females, is labiaplasty. In another article published in The New York Times written by Roni Caryn Rabin titled, “More Teenage Girls Seeking Genital Cosmetic Surgery” in 2016 “Girls 18 and younger account for less than 2 percent of all cosmetic operations, but almost 5 percent of all labiaplasties.” While this article was written in 2016 it is probably safe to say that this is true or even maybe slightly increased in statistics. The article does talk about how there was push back on having still developing females have this surgery by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. The author answers what she says is what is driving the trend by explaining that the easy access to the internet has heightened searches of images of vulva but experts say they “are often air-brushed and do not portray the range of normal variation.” This belief of what the vulva is supposed to look like in order to raise self-consciousness no doubt stems from the porn industry.
The porn industry’s effect of what roles the male and female should take in intercourse has affected one big aspect of what sex is supposed to be. Intimacy, as defined by dicitionary.com, is the close familiarity or friendship; closeness. How are a couple supposed to remain intimate if the porn industry is telling them exactly what the women wants and the man should do or even how the woman should look. In the past, the practice of sex before marriages was considered almost shameful by society. In today’s time, driven by curiosity and the porn industry, there is social pressure for men to lose their virginity at least during college if not before, regardless of who the woman is. What does that mean for intimacy, its non-existent? “Hookups” are not about closeness or familiarity but purely about pleasure. The divorce rate continues to climb and it is becoming a rarity for young couples to make it to their 25th wedding anniversary. One problem I would say is communication and this directly correlates to the bedroom where there isn’t much communication about what works but what the porn video the guy watched the day before dictates what she would like. This is horrible for a relationship because in general she probably doesn’t like it but believes the male does like it. While other definitions of intimacy deal directly with sexual intercourse it would be safe to say the more intimate two are before, the better the sex for both partners.
It has become a shame to a part of a society that believes that porn is driving factor behind one of the best things about nature. Being self-conscious about body image for both the male and female, stereotyping roles in intercourse and completely deteriorating bedroom and relationship intimacy are only a few things that porn has affected. In “Pornland: How the Porn Industry has Hijacked Our Sexuality” there was a moment when the speaker asked the question “Where will porn go next?” Indicating that the violence already seen in porn is already too high and there isn’t much more that can happen. The question could further ask what else could porn affect in our relationships. There are a lot of questions that porn can pose when someone looks at it as more than just a pleasure industry. How will the porn industry start affecting more than just our personal relationships in the future and when, if ever, will society start recognizing the problem and begin attempting to fix the problem?
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