Contraceptive servey/ thoughts on contraception

Patrick Keller

Help received: class discussions, videos, power points, and personal experience

 

So before taking this class the only methods I had heard of for contraception were male condoms, pulling out, pills, and an IUD. I had no idea that there were so many different methods. Dispite this there are only a few very effective ones. Condoms are the most easily accessible forms of contraception and are one of the most effective. In addition to being very effective at preventing pregnancy they also are effective protection against STIs. There are a few diffrent types of condoms: male, female and oral despite this I have yet to see either an oral condom or a female condom in the “wild”. There are other types of contraception that are effective as well.

Birth control comes in a few different forms oral in the form of pills, the shot (ouch) administered through the use of a needle and a more permanent rod that is placed under the skin. The pills have to be taken on time and the shots have to be administered about every three months. The Rod however is good for around three years and can be taken out at anytime. While these methods do not protect against STIs they are harder to screw up than a condom or pulling out, they also require less thought and do not decrease sexual pleasure. The less thought required the better the option in my opinion so I am a big fan of birth control. Another option is an IUD or an insert into the uterus that prevents pregnancy. It does not protect against STIs and from what I understand can be felt sometimes during intercourse. They are also prone to causing infections.

The other more drastic option its surgery to prevent pregnancy such as Vasectomies. This usually is a pretty good way to prevent pregnancy and can be permanent or reversible. It does not protect against STIs and Male or Female I would not advocate for the cutting up of body parts for birth control there are better ways such as pills, shots or rods.

My personal favorite of the bunch are the pills because they are pretty effective, they do not hurt the girl like shots nothing foreign is planted in the body and it does not decrease sexual pleasure for either partner. It is also harder to screw up than pulling out or condoms.

Artifact 2

Help Received: Class discussion, Video, Own thoughts.

 

The Mosuo are a matrilineal rural culture in China. They are female centric meaning that the females are the center of the household, take care of the property, raise kids and are allowed to have multiple partners. This allows them run their households and pursue their career with complete freedom from the bonds of marriage. On the flip side however this means that the men are free to sleep with whomever they want whenever they want. Which means they are not around to help support and protect the family or raise kids. I think this is a little odd, I think that kids regardless if they are sons or daughters need the guidance and mentorship of the father as well as the mother. Both are equally as important.

The part that I don’t understand (and maybe I’m just a romantic) but for me I can only love one person. I do not understand how someone can chose to have kids with someone and be in an open relationship with someone else. Where is the jealousy? I would not be able to stand my partner seeing someone else for one second. I also kind of feel like the system that the Mosuo pressures men to be dishonorable. By taking away marriage they are free to do whatever they want but on the flip side you cant really have love if your seeing multiple people.

Men are also traditionally the protectors of the household. And in a country like China where firearms are banned you need men to protect the household, and from the looks of their society there is a complete lack of security for women and children which is not good.

Artifact 7

Patrick Keller

 

Help received:  movie and personal experiences

 

Robert Eads is the transgender man from rural Georgia which the documentary Southern Comfort  focused on. He was originally born a girl and even got married to a man as a woman but felt deep down that he was really a man so he got a divorce from his husband and underwent the process to become a man. He then began attending Southern Comfort Conferences (A National Meeting of Transgenders) every year. As a result of this he gained a new family a family of transgenders. He even met his partner Lola (ironic name) and they began living together. He however had a stroke of bad luck and developed ovarian cancer, Ironically the one part of him that was still female was going to kill him.  He ended up attending one last conference and speaking at it before passing away.

The film talks about the challenges that the transgender community faces in their families, public, and in politics. I covers personal challenges of the characters and what they had to do when they came out. It says that most transgenders get abandoned by their biological family. This makes their non-biological family even more important. This rejections has huge psychological ramifications which include depression, drug and alcohol abuse as well as suicide. So my family actually has experience in dealing with this. My moms side of the family are the Malones and are very Irish which means we are already more prone to substance abuse. So all of the males on my moms side are alcoholics and or drug addicts. Most will not admit to it and after my uncle showed up drunk and high to a family gathering and OD-ed outside my mom forced him to go to rehab which was tough for him because he hadn’t been sober since he was 15 and he was now 56. He was rehab for a total of 9 months and I would go down with my mom to visit him. Now historically Uncle Dennis had been a jerk to my mom so I was not a huge fan of him anyway. But one day she had to break the news to him that he was going to have to be in rehab for 6 more months he got up and ran across the room and tried to attack my mom and I had to punch him in the face to get him to stop. I was 15.

So he ended up staying in rehab for another 6 months and sobering up and became nicer to my mom. Keep in mind that my mom was the only one who gave a shit about him and tried to help him she sacrificed many months of her time away from us down in California trying to help him through his issues without any thanks. My mom finally felt like she had the brother she never had. Things started finally going really well and we finally got our mom back. we thought she would never have to deal with that again. My mom was so inspired by what she did with my uncle that she helped start the local youth rehab center so that “nobody in our community would end up like my uncle”. I could never put my finger on it but he always acted really strange I thought it was the 40 years of drug abuse but I wrong.

So last year spring semester I studied abroad in Costa Rica so I didn’t talk to my family very much during that time at all. One day I called my mom just to check in, the conversation was pretty typical until my mom nonchalantly said “oh by the way uncle Dennis in now aunt Denise” I though she was kidding so I started laughing (my mom has a habit of playing sick jokes on me). She said she wan’t kidding but I didn’t believe her. It was not until a month later when I talked to my brother John, I mentioned what my mom said and he said it was true… I was dumbfounded but it make a lot of sense and explained the 40 years of drug abuse. While I thought that was really weird, I typically have no problem with people like transgenders or gays unless they flaunt it in my face then I get annoyed. So it was whatever, and I didn’t really hear much about it again until earlier this year when he started drinking again… and being a piece of crap to my mom again. He sent her all sorts of horrible emails and phone calls. He broke my moms heart, and threw all her efforts down the drain and claimed he was not trans anymore. We have since cut off all communication with him or her or whatever. He’s dead to me as far as I’m concerned. I think he is severely mentally ill and I don’t think it can be fixed. Maybe this has affected my view of this community as a whole but we have been dealing with this for years, I think these people are mentally ill, and thats what causes them to be confused the way they are. It is NOT natural for men to become women and women to become men and quite frankly I think it is gross and wrong. So that has been my experience with the trans community. I don’t think that someone born a female is actually a dude.. they are a chick, they might not even like that fact but thats what it is .. a fact.. I can see how people could be mentally ill and be confused or thin that they are something they are not. I have a rock and a leaf and no matter how much the rock wants to be a leaf it is still a rock. end of story.

Artifact 5

Patrick Keller

Help Received: Powerpoints, Class discussions and Videos on canvas

 

Female Circumcision

What is it

There are many different types of female circumcision all around the world some are solely for ceremonial purposes, some are for spiritual purposes and some are for cosmetic purposes. There are also degree of severity in female circumcision type. Type 1 is the least severe, type 2 more severe, and type 3 being the most sever and frankly just wrong.

 

Type1

Type 1 Circumcision or “Sunna Circumcision” is the mildest type of circumcision. It is practiced all across Africa and the Middle East and is considered a right of passage and a religious necessity taught by Muhammad in Islam. The actual procedure includes removal of the prepuce and some or all of the clitoris.

type 2

Type 2 circumcision is a less severe version of Infibulation that was created when type 3 circumcisions were outlawed by the British. It was invented by Sudanese midwives in 1946. The operation includes partial or entire removal of the clitoris and the removal of the labia minora. This type of circumcision is practiced widely in Sub Saharan Africa.

type 3

Type 3 is the most severe form of female circumcision. Also known as Infibulation or Pharaonic circumcision this procedure removes the clitoris completely as well as the labia minora. The labia majora is then sewn together and only small openings are kept open for menstrual fluid and urine. It is practiced in Somalia, Sudan, the southern part of Egypt and some regions of Western Africa. This type of circumcision causes loss of sexual pleasure in women as well as severe mental problems.

type 4 pericings + cerimonial

Type 4 is considered an alternative to actual circumcision and includes piercings or doing a small ceremonial cut of the vagina.

elimination and problems

Circumcision is very hard to eliminate for a few reasons the first reason is because it is a tradition and those are typically hard to get rid of especially when that country is very poorly educated. Even if people are educated Circumcision is often a religious practice which makes it all but impossible to get rid of in that religions area of influence. Even if this practice is made illegal we will never get rid of it as we live in reality and in reality when you make something illegal it will just continue in a black market.

Article 4

Gender health gap

Patrick Keller

Help Received: Power points, Class discussions, personal experience

Men and women have different sets of health issues that face them. There is some overlap in conditions but there are also illnesses that are unique to one sex or the other. While I do think that the problems facing men and women are different I don’t necessarily think that one problem set is necessarily worse than the other as there are pretty terrible conditions facing either group. For example there are illnesses  that are more common in men such as: Parkinson’s, skin cancer (Because we are dumb and think we are too good for sunscreen), ALS, HIV(Gay population), and Autism. Women also have a different set of illnesses they face such as: Chronic Kidney Disease, Alzheimer’s, osteoporosis, breast cancer and complications from pregnancy. One thing that affects heath in either gender is gender roles. Gender roles have the ability to discourage either gender from seeking medical assistance. Gender roles can also cause mental problems in both males and females.

Women obviously face some significant physical health issues that males do not. Men do not have to deal with as many issues as far as reproductive health goes and they do not have to deal with pregnancy and its complications. Gender roles also put almost all of the responsibility for contraception on the female. These expectation also put most of the responsibility and blame on females for pregnancy and abortion. This is wrong as it takes two to make a baby but often the baby daddy gets the hell out of doge and leaves the mother to provide for the baby, then when the girl gets an abortion when she cant support the kid she gets ostracized for doing so or even calling them murderers. Even if the kid is born women are expected to stay at home take care of the kids and they lose their ability to have jobs and do the things they enjoy which causes depression and other mental health problems.

Men have a couple significant issues facing them that women do not necessarily deal with. The gender role of men is the head of the household, the protectors the fighters. Your not supposed to cry, show weakness, or talk about your issues. You are supposed to look invincible especially to your spouse. So this creates significant problems when men have health issues as they have a tendency to try and “solider  through it” until it gets really bad. This is especially true with sexual heath as the last thing guys want to do is admit they have problems with sex as that is a large source of pride to a man. the dark side of this coin is that because we don’t talk to others about our issues we keep it bottled up inside which is why the suicide rate for men is super high. Speaking from experience this has the ability to make you feel backed into a corner with no way out as you don’t want to show weakness. Especially at a place like VMI where the suicide rate has been historically extremely high (and even encouraged or forced at certain times in history) you have to force yourself to find at least a few people that you trust and talk to them regularly, even if your very busy. It’s so so easy to get overwhelmed and feel alone you have to keep engaged with your buddies and support each other otherwise you will lose your mind.

Artifact 6

Consider your own views of menstruation and reflect.

Patrick Keller

Help Received: Class Discussion, My own ramblings and experiences (thanks for putting up with them ;))

A little background first. So I grew up as the oldest of three boys which effectively meant I knew absolutely nothing about menstruation until I started dating girls in high school.  While I know my mom had them when I was little I really didn’t notice or more likely was completely oblivious to what it was. My first experience with menstruation was when I was a senior in high school and actually started dating. My first Girlfriend, who we’ll call “girlfriend 1”, and I did not have very good communication skills. So it came as a surprise to me when some days when I would try to talk to her at lunch she would be very rude and then randomly start crying and not talk the whole lunch. So after a while I would just stop hanging out with her if she was acting strange that day. It took one of her friends who saw what was going on to pull me aside and explain what was happening, she was on her period. I felt really dumb for not realizing that but I was also at a loss for what to do. For someone who grew up in a house full of boys this was a new one. I wasn’t sure if I should just give her space or if I should double down on the lovey dovey stuff. I ultimately opted for the first option which ended that relationship pretty quickly.

The second girl I dated who we’ll call “girlfriend 2” was a more interesting case as the second half of the relationship was long distance. While I was around during the summer while I knew she was on her period the only real sign is that she would fluctuate from being really quiet to being really cuddly. I would usually just get her some chocolates before I came over and then cuddle with her a lot that usually worked fine and we didn’t really have any other issues … Until I left, the whenever she would get on her period she was angry because I couldn’t be there for her and complained a whole bunch over the phone. This eventually led to her seeking out the attention of other guys as I was not there to satisfy here. Such is life though.

The third Girlfriend however was different entirely as she was on birth control. As a result I didn’t see any mood swings or behavior changes at all. That did not mean that we didn’t butt heads at all it was quite the opposite. So I would say that menstruation in all honesty does not bother me that much at all. although it makes it inconvenient for sex for a few days other than that you just have to understand where your girl is coming from and be patient with her. Just because they feel like they are being attacked from the inside doesn’t mean that they aren’t human. Ya gotta treat em right especially during this time and they will take care of you. During class it was noted that girls feel really embarrassed about tampons and such. I really don’t know why. I used them as a lifeguard and in the army as ways to stop bleeding. Its basically a big cotton ball so I don’t understand why they would freak out about it. Us guys do understand that girls have periods and it’s not a huge deal at all to us.

I think it would have been a lot nicer if my mom had mentioned some stuff about it when I was younger but I am oblivious to everything so I probably would not have realized it anyway. I don’t understand why people make buying tampons out to be like buying condoms. Its not secretive or naughty its a normal function of the human body. It’s basically toilet paper and should be seen as such, nobody gives me sideways looks when I buy toilet paper and it should be the same for tampons. that being said I’m always happy to go pick them up for someone I’m with. I think the expectation of girls to be “lady like” makes it embarrassing for them to acknowledge their menstruation which is dumb because while yes us guys like girls to be lady like we understand that you guys are human beings too and your body does things you can’t control.

Artifact 3

Patrick Keller

Help Recived: Lecture,  PowerPoint, and Tico Times Article

The global gender gap is defined as the discrepancy between what men earn verses what women earn. some countries are not that bad but others especially those in the middle east have horrible wage discrepancies. In the global gender Gap countries in Scandinavia like Finland, Norway, Sweden as well as countries like Iceland finish  in the top three places to be a woman the us is around number 51 so slightly higher than middle and Arab countries and the middle east consistently rank lowest on the list in the 140’s (Power Point). this had a lot to do with small Scandinavian populations and large

To measure gender gap researchers use things such as maternity leave, rape, sexual abuse, harassment, life spans, pay and other factors contribute to this. The united states is in or around the 51st position (Powerpoint) I would Imagine that it is not in the top 10 because of its size and diverse population which includes a large middle eastern population. The top 10 countries are relatively sparsely populated Scandinavian or European countries because they are small it is easy for them to solve gender gap issues. The US needs to do a better job of opening up government jobs to Women as an example for private firms to follow as well as adopt some sort of policy for maternity leave.

Women are relatively equal to men until they have kids then at least in the US they are expected to stay home and take care of the children which for the most part has been their traditional role with few exceptions. Men traditionally are supposed to be the bread winners and support the wife and children during this time. Domestically though the most I’ve ever seen my dad do is take out the trash and dishes. I can see how women might feel trapped in the house though with no job and no real ability to make new outside friends. My chosen country is Costa Rica and while they rank high on a list By FiveThirtyEight there is actually a big gender gap in this country. According to the Tico Times Ticas can earn up to 27 percent less than Ticos in the same job which is “no bueno”. There are also 21,000 more unemployed women than men in Costa Rica.

 

Sources: https://ticotimes.net/2017/04/06/gender-wage-gap-costa-rica

Porn and it’s affects on sex Essay1

Patrick Keller

Help received: Articles on porn on list, porn, personal experiences, lectures and power points

 

Most people nowadays end up watching porn at a young age. This is doing a number of things to alter young boys and girls thoughts and attitudes towards sex and changing society as a whole. Porn has made it acceptable to be very aggressive during sex i.e. choking, slapping, anal, facials ect.. while there are folks out there who are into this sort of thing this does not represent the majority of the population. Porn has also made girls and guys feel self conscious about their bodies and their sexual performance. Watching porn can also lead to a lack of sexual performance especially in males because it leads to unrealistic expectations of women’s’ bodies and their willingness to do the things seen in porn. In more extreme cases this can lead to Erectile Dysfunction like symptoms.

So a large problem for males that results from porn is decreased sexual performance, and it can range from mild issues like trouble getting it up at first to complete lack of sexual arousal in actual sexual encounters. For example in the article Porn and the Threat to Virility The author mentions that despite the lack of scientific evidence that porn causes ED many men use the simple fact that they get boners to porn and do not get boners without porn even in sexual situations as a prime example of porn’s effects on the brain.

Many do not associate girls health problems with porn as far less females statistically watch porn according to the article Girls & Sex Navigating the Complicated New Landscape. This does not mean however that girls do not experience problems as well. Many have issues with trying to live up to how porn stars look and as a result there has been a huge increase in younger girls asking for surgeries to fix perceived cosmetic issues such as getting implants, Vaginal reconstruction and other unnecessary procedures.

I believe that this is a major issue partly because I’ve had personal experience with this. I used to watch porn the way most guys do and never really had problems with it until I started seriously dating. Hookups were never an issue but when I was with someone for a while and continued watching porn there would be time where it just “didn’t happen” I though something was wrong with me and it didn’t even occur to me that porn could have been the issue until I was on a field exercise and was taking with a buddy and we got on the subject of porn. He mentioned that men often experience sexual problems if they watch porn in relationships and immediately my jaw dropped. Turns out multiple people in the group had the same issue. so then I went back and tried not watching porn and it worked and the sex got a whole lot better.

Reflection 1

Patrick Keller

Help Received: Slides, Lecture, Movies from Class, 2 google images

Sex according to the lecture is biological, so if you are born with male parts then you are male and if your born with female parts you are female. Gender according to the lecture can mean a whole array of things. While it factors in the biological sex it also includes what that person is attracted to and what they feel the are, as well as behavioral and social factors. So sex is defined by biology and gender is defined by society and how a person feels.

Society tends to define gender roles into male and female roles. Girls are feminine and as a result are responsible for the softer chores such as cleaning, getting food, making food, taking care of the kids ect.. Whereas men are masculine and are responsible for fighting and the protection of the family, hunting, and the important decisions of the family. This has been the way society has worked for thousands of years as evidenced by the hunter gatherers as the men would hunt and fight for the family and women would gather resources, take care of the kids and take care of matters in camp.

So binary genders means that you can only be one or the other male or female it is insinuating that gender is defined by sex whereas non binary people do not necessarily call themselves male or female but a mix of the two. Basically non binary says that gender is a large grey area and largely depends on the situation.

Third gender is anyone that can’t be classified as man or woman in other words an “other gender”. A number of examples of these were given in the slides and videos in class and two such examples are the Muxes of Mexico and the lady boys of Thailand.

 

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Pictured above are the Muxes who are from the Oaxaca state of southern Mexico. They were all born male but identify as neither, display feminine traits and cross dress.

 

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Pictured above are Kathoeys or ladyboys from Thailand. They are actually a big tourist attraction in thailand and perform in many high end nightclubs. They were all born male and have varying degrees of biological altercations, some have had a complete sex change while others have kept their male parts and only cross dress.

 

Refrences:

  1. Camus, Ana. Meet the Muxes. 2015. Photo. 1200×797. see 1st link above
  2. Kristin. I Made It To Second Base With A Lady Boy. 2013. Photo. 1024×680. See 2nd link above

interview project

Patrick Keller

Interview project final

ERH 303WX-01

12/12/2018

HR: BR’s, General knowledge about Appalachia gained from the course and previous papers. No specific sources used in writing the paper.

 

Me: Okay, Thanks for coming today! first question where did you grow up in Appalachia?

Leuelin: I grew up in Cabin Virginia, it’s southwestern Virginia Near the north Carolina Virginia state line. It’s actually near the small town of mount airy north carolina also known as Mayberry if you ever watch the Andy Griffith show.

Me: No way that’s freaking cool! My parents love that show and we still watch it.

Leuelin: Yeah it’s based off my hometown.

Me: Alright so second question. Do you Identify as Appalachian? If so, why?

Leuelin: I definitely say that I consider myself Appalachian and that’s usually just because I was raised to do more with less, I was raised to always work hard, always treat people with hospitality and respect. and just living a simpler way of life and using common sense to solve pretty complicated problems.

Me: Alrighty, third question, what would you describe as aspects of Appalachian people and Appalachian culture?

Leuelin: Uh, Big thing Like I said earlier is just doing more with less a lot of people they grew up in the great depression and stuff like that. they were used to having a lot less and working really hard for what they have. You’ll often go into a job or something and they’ll just ask ya how much do you work. You just show that your a good worker they’ll keep ya even if you don’t do the best job as long as you’re there working and putting forth a hard effort. and also on something like that a big thing is just the manners If you do that a lot of the older people will really respect you.

Me: So, fourth question, can you tell if someone is from Appalachian or is not from the region?

Leuelin: Yeah you can tell there is plenty of ways of telling usually by the way they talk if they usually get pretty aggravated talking to someone trying to hurry them up. for us if your sitting down talking with someone I’ve been in a store, gone in, for just a jug of milk and ended up just talking to someone for 45 minutes. cause your just being civil with them.

Me: do you consider Appalachians to be culturally different in any way from other people in the US?

Leuelin: I would definitely say so i mean there’s no many places that places as much pride in hard work. we kinda share were definitely still kinda see ourselves separate from the rest of the nation. Because we see all this craziness going around and were just trying to stay sane in our own little small town deal with ourselves be successful for ourselves and help out our community. also with that is I mean we just end up having a lot of stuff where anywhere else would be considered impolite , with the Civil War and stuff despite everything the war is still recent on a lot of people’s minds it’s still a big thing and you’ll still hear em  calling anyone from north of the Mason Dixon yanks and stuff like that.

Me: I got called a yank when I came here and I’m from Oregon so that was interesting.

Leuelin: So anyway, and for a lot of stuff like that and then we still don’t see the flag (confederate) as like hate. People don’t know what hate speech is a lot it is old timing ways of saying stuff That the words would normally be very offensive but for that you just know that it means an entirely different thing. So like “cotton pickin” for example a lot of people think oh that’s racist because it relates to slavery but its just cause picking cotton sucks. and that was always a real big thing. and a redneck isn’t some hillbilly hill jack, he works hard for his living and literally the back of his neck is burnt because he’s been out in the sun all day.

Me: What role if any does family play in your life?

Leuelin: It’s usually pretty big even with around like family meals and stuff you’ll invite people that you normally don’t, and especially with my family there is feuding going on. yeah and it makes it pretty hard but even then like around Christmas thanksgiving or anything like that well still cook a big mess of food up for everybody. make that and spread it to everyone else and we’ll make sure and give it to them even if we aren’t on speaking terms with them well still give them a call saying hey we just cooked up you can come by and eat with us if you want and sit a spell of if you want we can drop it by your house.

Me: so do you think feuding is like a big issue or not?

Leuelin: Depends on which generation? it’s usually across generations that your getting the feuding. So with a lot of the older people, um, they usually worked out together. and then they are used to being around each other but then they’ll be feuding with someone else who is like from a middle age generation. something like that but even the middle age there’s more. That is also your family builds a reputation, for us I was always told never mess with an Ayers, a pack or an Allen. All the Ayers are crazy, all the Packs run their mouths all the time, and Allen’s well ya know we have a saying “pink Allen white rabbit” from where they inbred a lot. They have like different complexions and ya just know it. your like oh… there’s an Allen. and it’s just something that’s just widely accepted from around where we are. and the like dynamic of the name changes after a while. MacMillen or McMillan are known as hard workers in orchards. that being said don’t ever loan us a truck because if we break it well fix it and it’ll run but it’s gonna be broke at some point.

Me: Number 7, growing up how do you remember Appalachian being portrayed in the media?

Leuelin: I definitely remember seeing it, well with the Andy Griffith show we were kind of portrayed as this idyllic place, and a lot of people try and emulate that but then they go outside of town and it’s a bunch of hilljacks which is kind of like the N word for us.

They always see us as stupid illiterate inbreds.  But really you don’t know that that man there has worked all of his life than you’ve worked ever and it’s just such a strange dynamic because you’ll be there and you’ll know the culture there will be commonly accepted terms like there will be a standard greeting of the day you know “ how ya doin? Well ya know I woke up above the dirt so pretty well. But other people might say well your car broke down but you woke up above the dirt. It’s just a kind of baseline that as long as you’re alive you’re doing pretty well. and for us a lot of other places don’t really understand that i’ve noticed and especially here people will just look at me like I’m weird. You’ll have really fun sayings like uhh, ”hanging in there like a hair on a biscuit” and its just to make them laugh and get a smile on their face. And people look at you like “your an idiot” whereas if you go down south people are just like “oh he’s a good ole country boy having a good time” and that’s really a big change in the views.

Me: Number 8 do you, your family or your friends prepare and eat certain kinds of food?

Leuelin: Uh we definitely do, big ole pounds of cornbread, hog Dow? we have pinto beans, collared greens, mustard greens, turnip greens and also vinegar beans. and that’s pretty exclusive and well endue, and it’s the old fashioned way of canning green beans. You don’t have a pressure canner to pressure it and make sure it seals right, so you do it the old timey way and add vinegar and that would add acidity to it to where bacteria and stuff wont grow in it. and it adds that flavor and vinegar is used in almost every southern cuisine at some point weather it be greens or anything else like that.

Me: interesting.  Okay, number 9. What would you consider to be respectful in your community?

Leuelin: for us it’s definitely manners and just respect for the elders. you know, yes ma’am, no ma’am, yes sir, no sir. also holding the door open for an elderly person, even till like 15 feet away where most people think its awkward to hold it, it shows that your looking out for them.  and a lot of worked really hard in their lives so their body is tore up. there was an old man who used to come into my store that was a coal miner. Broke every bone in his body. He had steel rods in every limb. and he would still come out and walk around and still be willing to help you do your job just to be nice or something so if i can hold the door for him thats the least i can do. and you’ll never really know who you’ll meet cause you’ll meet some people who are really influential have a lot of money and can get you a job where it’s really nice and they wot look like anything. If you help them our it will pay out in the long run for both ends.

Me: Okay, number 10. What would you consider to be disrespectful in you community

Leuelin: definitely disrespect of elders, lack of common courtesy for stuff like that and not keeping your word. A lot of stuff in southern, at least in our Appalachian culture is based on your word. So, you take them at their word and then if they don’t follow through on it, it’s not just them that’s put down but it’s their entire family. Shelia is married to Jim and we were gonna sell a car but, did not split it 50/50 with me. it could even be like yeah this fella he was gonna come help me out on the farm and he never showed up. Then no one is gonna take him at this word. It’s always like kind of a fun saying we have “you can’t cash my check but you can take me at my word. so were not always the most when you don’t have anything else you still have your honor and integrity.

Me: cool alright. that coincides a lot with the values here that’s interesting. What do you think is a common misconception about Appalachian people?

Leuelin: Uh just once again going back to the intelligence thing, because a lot of people could literally fix a truck with a mountain dew can a clothes hanger and some duct tape. I’ve seen it happen before and it’s stuff where normally like its 500 dollars and three days to fix it and some boy just gets under the truck with a mountain dew can and fixes it. its like whoa okay well there’s that. and then also the general standing of wealth. like how people come into work with ratty clothes all tore to pieces, like my boss he’s well off he has a 2.5 million dollar house he has 7 corvettes and stuff like that. You’d never know it because he’s wearing wranglers with holes in it stained all to wazoo, wearing white sneakers that have the bottoms tore out of them. and half the time he’s not even wearing a shirt and if he is it’s raggedy and been torn by barbed wire and stuff. and you’d never know that man has that kind of money but he does. you’ll see an old man sitting on a bench or something reading a newspaper and he might be wearing like Sunday clothes or something and you don’t think anything and then you watch him and he gets in a brand new Cadillac. and your like “oh wow that dude was actually rich.” Stuff like that is people don’t look beyond skin depth the Appalachian culture is so much more than that.

Me : What would you want young people to know about Appalachian people and culture.

Leuelin : I would say doing more with less. that is a huge part of Appalachian culture and I think that really extends from the reconstruction era after the civil war where the south wasn’t helped it was just pushed off to the side and let on it’s own saying figure it out yourself. and then with the great depression a lot of people were hit hard with that. with textile corporations putting the small farms out of business. they are always being kicked down and never raised up so they are constantly used to just having to do what they need to do to get the job done no matter what it takes. So that’s a really important think. and I’d definitely say that people need to be a lot more careful with pain killers and stuff like that cause right now a lot of people in my generation and older are getting hooked on painkillers. It’s just, it’s really destroying the Appalachian culture.

Me: Well hey thank you for doing the interview today, appreciate it man.

 

Reflection Essay: 1040 words

 

Humbleness, it’s a quality most people seem to have lost in the modern world. That being said most of the time when I interact with people from Appalachia I get the impression that they are very humble. They don’t brag much and if they are well off you would never know it. It’s not necessarily that the culture in Appalachia is that different it’s that they have retained the social skills and manners that the rest of the country has lost especially in the cities. A second thing is the positivity. No matter how tough their existence is they always say they are doing well.

 

When I started the interview I was not really worried about offending my subject as I would treat them with the same dignity and respect just as I have experienced in the last couple year of living in Appalachia. I started off by asking a few basic questions: Where are you from in the region? Do you see yourself as Appalachian ect. As it turns out he lives super close to Mount Airy which for those that do not know Is the town that the Andy Griffith Show was based off of. I thought this was super interesting because my parents would always watch that show with us when my brothers and I were little. The way my parents explained it they said that’s an example for us of how society should be and how we should act manners wise.

 

This is in contrast with the stereotypes that we have learned about in class which says that Appalachians are a bunch of unintelligent standoffish hicks on meth where as in the show they are portrayed as down to earth and welcoming. In the show you always see people holding doors open for each other and greeting each other on the street where as everywhere else it seems like people could care less about each other. I’ve had nothing but good experiences in Lexington as well people always greet me on the street and will just randomly strike up a conversation with me. A big thing that I have noticed is that they never talk about themselves and always ask you questions and even when you do ask them questions they downplay everything.

 

One of the main things that stuck with me from the interview is when Llewellyn said “he’s well off he has a 2.5 million dollar house he has 7 corvettes and stuff like that. You’d never know it because he’s wearing wranglers with holes in it stained all to wazoo, wearing white sneakers that have the bottoms tore out of them”. This goes back to the main topic of this reflection which is humbleness. This is the quality I admire most about the Appalachian people probably because it’s the way I was raised. I even feel a little weird saying this but my dad has done pretty decent for himself but you would never know that because he dresses in flannels, blue jeans and a 30 year old pair of boots that have been repaired multiple times. He drives old beat up cars and never gets rid of, or buys anything if  he can help it. So you would never suspect that he has any money at all and that’s just the way he likes it because people don’t treat him differently. The lessons I gleaned from my dad about not boasting, living simply and being humble and thankful for everything you have, have largely been confirmed by my experiences living here, interacting with the people and taking this class.

 

Then there is the stereotype of violence. This is one of the big things that critics of the region will use to put it down. Yes it’s true Appalachia has had its share of violent events in its past just like everywhere else. And yes people may have resorted to violence more often because of the austerity of the region and the lack of effective law enforcement in sufficient numbers. But when it comes down to it they are not necessarily inherently violent but you mess with their family, those they love, their livelihood or property they’ll fight to the last man against you. I’ll take people that will fight for what they love over the critics who won’t stand for anything.

 

The other stereotype is that of unintelligent, the belief that Appalachians are inherently intellectually inferior. I would argue that they are some of the most intelligent people on the planet but this depends on your definition of intelligence. Appalachians are some of the most street smart people on earth. They know how to take care of themselves make due with less and I think this is more important than having book smarts. I guarantee you that most of those people who criticize the region have no street smarts and wouldn’t be able to survive out in the sticks. Being book smart is fine but you better get the street smarts first because all those books don’t matter if you can’t survive in the real world. This being said Appalachia has its share of billionaires and famous academics. Don’t let their slow drawl fool you they are usually pretty damn smart.

 

The Appalachian lifestyle is not something to scoff at, it is something to emulate. We learn values like family first, standing up for what you believe, humbleness and street smarts. They can help us realize that we don’t need a bunch of fancy expensive things and that you can be happy with less. If people today were as polite and respectful as Appalachians the world would be a much nicer place. Maybe just Maybe the threat of a violent response to someone messing with your family or property will make the world a more respectful place. Being able to know you have a lot but being humble about it will get you far in life and make it much easier to get along with folks. That being said you have to be able to go from zero to 100 really quick to protect those you love, this doesn’t mean that you should be violent all the time but you should be willing to do violence for the ones you love.