Patrick Keller

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Most people nowadays end up watching porn at a young age. This is doing a number of things to alter young boys and girls thoughts and attitudes towards sex and changing society as a whole. Porn has made it acceptable to be very aggressive during sex i.e. choking, slapping, anal, facials ect.. while there are folks out there who are into this sort of thing this does not represent the majority of the population. Porn has also made girls and guys feel self conscious about their bodies and their sexual performance. Watching porn can also lead to a lack of sexual performance especially in males because it leads to unrealistic expectations of women’s’ bodies and their willingness to do the things seen in porn. In more extreme cases this can lead to Erectile Dysfunction like symptoms.

So a large problem for males that results from porn is decreased sexual performance, and it can range from mild issues like trouble getting it up at first to complete lack of sexual arousal in actual sexual encounters. For example in the article Porn and the Threat to Virility The author mentions that despite the lack of scientific evidence that porn causes ED many men use the simple fact that they get boners to porn and do not get boners without porn even in sexual situations as a prime example of porn’s effects on the brain.

Many do not associate girls health problems with porn as far less females statistically watch porn according to the article Girls & Sex Navigating the Complicated New Landscape. This does not mean however that girls do not experience problems as well. Many have issues with trying to live up to how porn stars look and as a result there has been a huge increase in younger girls asking for surgeries to fix perceived cosmetic issues such as getting implants, Vaginal reconstruction and other unnecessary procedures.

I believe that this is a major issue partly because I’ve had personal experience with this. I used to watch porn the way most guys do and never really had problems with it until I started seriously dating. Hookups were never an issue but when I was with someone for a while and continued watching porn there would be time where it just “didn’t happen” I though something was wrong with me and it didn’t even occur to me that porn could have been the issue until I was on a field exercise and was taking with a buddy and we got on the subject of porn. He mentioned that men often experience sexual problems if they watch porn in relationships and immediately my jaw dropped. Turns out multiple people in the group had the same issue. so then I went back and tried not watching porn and it worked and the sex got a whole lot better.